Cherry Blossom Dating site

[LornaDoone]

I signed up with this dating site and within a few minutes there are tons of men sending me messages. my email add is over flowing with messages from men all over the world.

What seems to be the problem is that MOST of them do not read or follow the contents of what I have written in my profile.

My preferences is that NO men who are over 30's,or are divorce men with kids,are welcome. and should be active.also chemistry is a must. have the same interests and goals in life is important too.

others are complaining,and begging me to adjust my age limitation,which I find it amusing; and others said I am too picky and hope I will find my dream man.
what if I'm picky?? every one has their own preferences

a few are decent men they understand and respect my preferences.

It seems like these men are sooo spoiled and want to get an easy Filipina.

[LornaDoone]

And oh! when they send messages for the first time most are uniform;they don't have originality.

and I hate when they adress me DEAR.......

to me that is inapproriate.

[LornaDoone]

Well... I stoped joining the site.I don't like the men who sending me messages mostly are old in their 50's up and divorced men.don't get me wrong I'm not against about kids nor older men. is just that I have my prefereces. some of them even tried to convince me that they are good men, honest and can be a good husband.

they think I am a naive girl,heck! they are mistake,I might look naive and innocent but I have a big brain.
I do not care if they are good and honest men. good and honest alone is not working for me. I stick to my preferences, I don't want to change a thing. I am who I am.


there is this one guy who is pissed off because I denied the chat invitation.then sent me message in my email add and said "who do I think I am that I have so much dislike about men" I denied his chat invitation when I viewed his profile, he is over 40's and divorced with kids. that is not what I'm looking for. I put restriction because I don't want to waste their time and my time.to weed out unneccessary chat but it does not help though.

needless to say there are many losers in that dating site. And I feel sorry for my fellow pinay who will end up marrying one of those men. you gals be careful selecting man and be a little bit choosy. don't settle for less. don't believe everything what they say until proven.



I know no one is reading and responding here. I like to come here once in a while,I like this forums because it is peaceful. I don't care if I am only talking to myself.LOL

[Dogwood_Poet]

You have to understand, with ANY dating site you are going to get a ton of responses from people that don't fit what you are looking for, even though you have posted what you want.

That is normal, hey, I still get messages from women on my Facebook and MySpace profiles, even though my default picture is of me and my wife! And it says plain as day that I am married and only have a profile to meet friends.

So, you have to plan to dig through a lot of dirt to find a diamond if you want to use a dating site.

I admit, I gave up on dating sites a long time before I met my wife. We met at a regular chat site (not a dating site) and built a relationship over several weeks of chatting, emails, and eventually phone calls.

[DrivingZiggy]

I will go out on a limb for the fellas and say that they have probably heard that ALL Pinays are desperate to marry us fat, old, ugly guys that they find themselves in a state of disbelief that somebody would actually rebuke their advances. The nerve!

But also you have to keep in mind that these very same guys are probably getting the chat invitations from ladies that don't fit their criteria either. Oh, and let's not forget how hard it is to weed through the scammers and find a real Pinay who they could begin a relationship with. We can only "see" things from our own perspective. The guys only know that they are the only one sitting at their computer, so to them it appears that they are the only guy who is trying to get your interest.

So, just be yourself and stay true to yourself. And try to be patient in the "weeding out" process. It took a while for me, but it finally worked. I'm sure it will work out for you, too.

[LornaDoone]

Anyway I'm not in a hurry to find love. I want to take it slow. dating sites is not only my option, but it also a better option to find love, I guess.

I agree with you some women and men are desperate to get married, they don't mind if they have in common, interests etc. as long as someone offer her or agreed him to marry. some of these men are taking advantage of these naive women. while some women trying to scam to some of these men who are looking for true love overseas.

[Dabyano]

Dating sites can generate a lot of contacts and weeding through them is very difficult. If you want to meet someone that way, you have to be very careful and very, very patient. Most of the responses you get are not worth the time to read, but out there...somewhere are good, sincere people who really want to meet someone and have a good relationship.

I know of Filipinas who met some guy online who seemed to be really nice and who even came to the Phils to visit them. But in the end, the guy was still a jerk who was just out to have his own fun and just to use them and forget them.

There is an old saying, “Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see." This really applies to meeting people online. Meeting someone online is ONLY a way to meet someone....you still have to check them out and see if they are right for you.


Daby

[LornaDoone]

To me, it is a lot easier to weeding out whose men do not met your criterea. it is very easy to spot and I follow my instict. I have lists and wrote them down. besides a recent picture, age,marital status, interests. also I inquire health check and criminal back ground check. and of course to be fair I do the same. also if he is divorce more than twice I'd take it as a red flag. I know am too judgemental but it is neccessary. so before they contact me, they should better be honest and ready to show the requirements I asked, just in case I like him and we both decided to be exclusive or more. if he's lying to me and think he can win my heart and I will forget all about my requirements. he is mistaken. I know some people are like that they think once you fall inlove with him you have a no way to escape from him. not for me, I am a stubborn person.

[DrivingZiggy]

I just remembered something. Before I hooked up with my fiancee', there was an ad that caught my eye. Nice looking girl who had a very nice write-up on her profile. That made her very desireable to me.

However, according to what she was looking for--much like yourself--I wasn't even close to the guy she was looking for. I felt kind of insulted. That made me want to "enlighten" her about what a wonderful guy I am.

So I sent her probably the longest e-mail I ever sent to anybody on that site explaining how wonderful I was and how wrong she was because she didn't want ME. The nerve!

I didn't say anything ugly to her as I'm sure a lot of guys did. But I still never heard back from her.

But I guess my point is that some--if not most--of us guys will see it as some kind of "challenge" and still try to win the girl. I guess it's kinda like the ex-boyfriend who can't face the fact that his girl broke up with him so he tries to force his way back into the relationship.

But what do I know? I drive a truck.

[LornaDoone]

Well.. being a wonderful person is a good thing; anyone can be a good person unless s/he is phychologically healthy.

however most individuals do not seek someone for a relationship, only because s/he is wonderful person. there are other things that are important to be considered when a person looking for special someone for a relationship, specifically in a long term relationship.

other qualities that are important in relationship. examples:

do you have goals/the same goals. both want children; and how many do you both like?

do you both energetic and enjoy being physically active?

do you have in common/have the same interests?

do you both enjoy doing in a particular thing etc?

Now if most of these questions the answered is NO the relationship is doomed not satisfying etc.

if one of you expect to accomodate to your liking and proceed to marry him/her anyway, that is UNHEALTHY relationship.


of course these are my opinions. I can't speak for all, everyone is different.

I know that some men get married ONLY because she is young and pretty girl. and there are women(some) get married because of ONE reason he's financial status.

And those are not my cup of tea. I'm not looking a rich guy to support me or support my family back home.


btw; a smart and matured person will not take offense because someone rejected her/him. they should be ready to face the consequences of thier action whatever results it maybe bad or good; because not everyone I'm thier ideal mate/lover nor you're every woman ideal lover. that is not mean you are not a wonderful person or you are a loser because you never succesfully wins his/her heart.

There is nothing wrong having preferences; everyone has one; and we all know that no one is perfect but every one has the right to choose what imperfection he/she can live with.