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[LornaDoone]

I realized I sounded like I'm lecturing you in my last post. sorry I never intended that way.

[LornaDoone]

Well...sometimes I don't really understand of my hubby. one day he tells me that he don't want to have kids because kids are expensive etc(even though he can afford to have one since he have high income) and he agreed that I should find other man who likes to have a child/children. now He told me I should stay with him and We gonna fix everything;and everything will be fine.then told me he realized how lucky he is to have me in his life.

My husband is a very smart guy infact he is member of a MENSA and He got award from the company where He working at being an excellent problem solver in the company.
however he seems to have trouble of what he really wants in life. and I really hate that.

I am in my mid 20's now but sometimes I am afraid I maybe not able to have child/children because he constantly changing his opinion about it.

I am going back again in PI and will stay there for years. maybe this will helps to both of us being apart for a while.

[LornaDoone]

I just came back from PI months ago because he was begging me to come back with him here in US. He promised He will change but still the same. *sigh*

[Dabyano]

Originally Posted by LornaDoone

He promised He will change but still the same. *sigh*

Lorna,

I really hope you are able to work things out. I hate to see anyone break up unless there is abuse or deception or something like that. Please do not think that I am making fun of your situation because I am not, but this reminds me of an old saying:

A woman marries a man, thinking that he will change, but he never does;
A man marries a woman, thinking that she will never change, but she does.

Daby

[Dabyano]

Originally Posted by LornaDoone

Well...sometimes I don't really understand of my hubby.....he seems to have trouble of what he really wants in life. and I really hate that.

I am going back again in PI and will stay there for years. maybe this will helps to both of us being apart for a while....I just came back from PI months ago because he was begging me to come back with him here in US. He promised He will change but still the same. *sigh*

Lorna,

It sounds like you went back to the PI before, maybe for the same reason...so see if that will help things. If that did not work before, what has changed to make you think it will work this time?

Originally Posted by LornaDoone

I am in my mid 20's now but sometimes I am afraid I maybe not able to have child/children because he constantly changing his opinion about it.

In your mid 20's you still have some time to have children, but at some point, it will be too late. As hard as the decision is, you will have to decide whether you want to stay with a man who does not want children or whether you will find someone else who does want to have children with you. If you really want to have more than one child, then you need to decide sooner.

If your husband already had children in a previous relationship, that may be a reason that he does not want more. Some guys just don't want to "grow up." Having children makes you grow up in a hurry.

Anyway, if he did not change his mind already, why will he change it now?

Daby

[Dabyano]

Lorna,

You must change your settings in order to receive a private message. I did receive a message from you, but I cannot respond because you are not receiving PM.

Daby

[mighty690am]

Amen brother!!! i was on that site for a while..... Same thing happened! I got scammed...I got hurt!! I had doubts that a fat guy like me would score a pretty young girl....without possibilities of a green card?

But 4 years later i met the girl pf my dreams. And it was after many IMs, phone callsand a 3 week visit to her town. I was actually has conviced that Love is possible ? She did not want my money,green card,or free ride in life.


good luck to you.....not all men have bad intentions.

Originally Posted by DrivingZiggy

I will go out on a limb for the fellas and say that they have probably heard that ALL Pinays are desperate to marry us fat, old, ugly guys that they find themselves in a state of disbelief that somebody would actually rebuke their advances. The nerve!

But also you have to keep in mind that these very same guys are probably getting the chat invitations from ladies that don't fit their criteria either. Oh, and let's not forget how hard it is to weed through the scammers and find a real Pinay who they could begin a relationship with. We can only "see" things from our own perspective. The guys only know that they are the only one sitting at their computer, so to them it appears that they are the only guy who is trying to get your interest.

So, just be yourself and stay true to yourself. And try to be patient in the "weeding out" process. It took a while for me, but it finally worked. I'm sure it will work out for you, too.

[LornaDoone]

What do you think guys, it is possible that Filipinas can be a victim of scam too?? I'm not talking here about money but some sort of a different kind of scam but still a scam.

well..I think it is easy to assume that only women from the third world countries will do the scam.

We always hear stories about foreigners being scam by women from the third world countries but we never hear or rarely heard about women being scam by foreign men but it doesn't mean it does not happen more often.