Hopelessly Romantic

[Dabyano]

We wrote to each other for about two years before we were actually together. Being the romantic that I am, I printed out and kept almost all of our e-mails. From time to time, I go back and reread them. It is fun [and educational] to look at what we said to each other, “back then,” after being together for years and after learning more and more about each other.

Often, I will see something that Wing wrote to me, which I did not understand back then. I take it to her and ask her what she was talking about and what it means. The conversations are usually fun, sometimes very funny and sometimes sad, but always, I learn something and always it makes us feel like we are closer together. Almost every time we talk about the old e-mails, one of us remembers a story or something that happened, at that time, that we never talked about before.

It may sound strange, but Wing never kept any of these e-mails and never saw any reason to keep them. I think the reason that I kept them is I like thinking about and reliving the excitement, the struggle and the eventual reward from the trials and tribulations that we had to go through to be together. Making and keeping this relationship with Wing is one of the hardest and most rewarding things that I have done in my entire life.

Recently, we talked about making sure to preserve our e-mails for our son, when he grows up, and maybe even our grandchildren, so they will know how deep our relationship was/is and how much we truly love each other.

I asked around a little to some of our friends. Most people kept a few things to send in for the immigration process, but no one that I have talked to has kept …everything.

Am I the only one?

[finnrot]

Originally Posted by Dabyano

We wrote to each other for about two years before we were actually together. Being the romantic that I am, I printed out and kept almost all of our e-mails. From time to time, I go back and reread them. It is fun [and educational] to look at what we said to each other, “back then,” after being together for years and after learning more and more about each other.

Often, I will see something that Wing wrote to me, which I did not understand back then. I take it to her and ask her what she was talking about and what it means. The conversations are usually fun, sometimes very funny and sometimes sad, but always, I learn something and always it makes us feel like we are closer together. Almost every time we talk about the old e-mails, one of us remembers a story or something that happened, at that time, that we never talked about before.

It may sound strange, but Wing never kept any of these e-mails and never saw any reason to keep them. I think the reason that I kept them is I like thinking about and reliving the excitement, the struggle and the eventual reward from the trials and tribulations that we had to go through to be together. Making and keeping this relationship with Wing is one of the hardest and most rewarding things that I have done in my entire life.

Recently, we talked about making sure to preserve our e-mails for our son, when he grows up, and maybe even our grandchildren, so they will know how deep our relationship was/is and how much we truly love each other.

I asked around a little to some of our friends. Most people kept a few things to send in for the immigration process, but no one that I have talked to has kept …everything.

Am I the only one?

Dabyano, That's fantastic!!! I wish I had done that. Jet and I had a whirlwind courtship on the internet. She popped up on my Yahoo! messenger and said hello to me one night. I had sent out plenty of feelers to many girls at the time, but none of them had the wherewithall to just decide to pop up on my messenger.

I was at work and had no idea who was saying hello to me on my messenger. She told me that I had contacted her through a site she had registered on and that she wanted to say hi. I talked to her for a little while and really liked her. All of the sudden she told me that I was too old for her(me 42 her 1and she wanted to introduce me to her friend that was with her at the internet cafe. Her friend had a child and I wasn't interested in raising someone elses child, so I said goodbye, and deleted her off my messenger.

Jet popped back on my messenger and apologized, but I kept popping her off my messenger. The little bugger kept popping back on and finally I relented and started talking to her again.

Six months later I flew to the Philippines, converted to Catholicism so I could marry her in her big Catholic church and now I sit here typing this six years later as one of the happiest men in the world.

BUT, I did not copy our conversations during our courtship. I feel that was a huge mistake. I would love to have the transcripts of our conversations on messenger.

You did a great thing by saving those conversations if you love your wife nearly as much as I love Jet. Congratulations my friend.

-fin

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[finnrot]

LOL. I don't know how I did that. She was 18 years old. Not 1.

[Dabyano]

Fin,

Thanks for your support and your kind words. Not that my situation is any more special than anyone else's, but I think I'll put the "first contact" e-mails in my blog. Take care,

Daby