WORRY ABOUT PASSWORD

Hello to all,
I am already quite a member in this site this problems is not mine but it is with my other friend who has a bf from USA. and they already met that guy last march i found out that they love each other very much and already engaged. day by day they keep chating with his fiancee it happens that the have a little problems about her friend(rose)and sent her bad emails,so she open tell his fiancee all about this things and then his fiancee wanted to change her password but in a way that he is the one who will change it,and ask her my friend to give her password so he will be the one who will change it.but my friend was in doubts to give her password simple because they are not married yet and not sure yet to each other,so maybe its good we will not give 100%of her secrets and maybe good if we will keep a little privacy for herself and this is really bothers her mind until this time,her fiancee force her to give her password but she did give it to her fiancee. should she have the reasons to do that?or might be good if she will give it.things this time seems complicated. for myself i dont have any idea so i share this to you guys hoping you could give her some advice so that her mind would be enlightened...
my friend told me whatever happened she will not give her password until they will get married.do you think she is right?plz let me hear your nice advice....god bless!!!

"honey greg you are my one and only BIG KID"

Good for her!
Let's see, I've been married for a year and a half with a 6 mth old baby and I just learned one of my wife's passwords.

he has no right doing that, granted they are engage BUT he shouldn't Force her to give it to him!if he forced her, she shouldn't had given it to him!!!well, she can always make another e-mail add and close the one that he know. 'he shouldn't be forcing her anyway. she can make another one if she wanted and tell her to tell her fiancee how she feels about it. they have to learn to understand and respect each other's feeling now before they get married!

I hope that she smells " THE POWER TRIP/DOMONEERING/TREAT YOU LIKE I OWN YOU" odor. This guy her fiance is on a HUGE power trip and is VERY insecure. She should DEMAND his PASWORD and tell him why.
Kevin

Originally Posted by tugar

Good for her!
Let's see, I've been married for a year and a half with a 6 mth old baby and I just learned one of my wife's passwords.

LOL my hubby knows soem of my password when I ask him to check something.. but I always check his e-mails for him LoL it's funny i've been nosey on his stuff eversince we were dating.( going to all his stuff when his not home) and I always tell him anyway. I don't just snoop and not telling him afterwards .. when I found something i always make fun w/ him. but he doesn't seems to care ...lol he asked me one time why do I snoop on his stuff i told him that was one of my ways of getting to know him better LOL hahhahahha i know it;s not cool sometimes but oh well!

Originally Posted by tugar

Good for her!
Let's see, I've been married for a year and a half with a 6 mth old baby and I just learned one of my wife's passwords.

Good advice as usual from Tugar. I would never ask my wife for her password.There is no valid reason her bf could have for asking for it unless he plans to investigate her posts and messages. In that case he is a control freak and she should stay far away from him.

You should give each others password, the one who does not give? the one whos hiding something, so if youre not hiding something then theres nothing to worry about...then if youre not sure of him then you can create another account if anything happens but for me its a matter of trust and i like when two couple sharing each other's deepest secrets, you are in personal relationship, so u have the right to know his personal life,,, everything!!!
I dont agree about not giving 100% trust??
how can be couple happy if thay dont have 100% love and trust to each other?, its like that if you dont trust him then you love him less,,, thats it...

Now your friend has a problem about the girl talking bad things about her in email, she should have told the guy earlier so that the guy will be aware of it, and also if the relationship starts to get serious, expect that the guy will ask your password, thats mostly what Ive noticed...And i like the feeling when my man asked me about my password and he gave me his as well. Because when you give each other,s password that means your showing your each other that your nothing to hide about. Sharing each others password, is what i belieave one way of getting to know each other more deeply...
And if you are scared to trust him 100% because you are scared of getting hurt, you dont have to worry cause LIFE is always be like that, Falling in love, getting hurt, falling in love again......all of us go through that...LOVE is like a GAMBLE!!!!theres nothing you can guarantee, just live with it instead.

[MrkGrismer]

I don't think it is something that should be asked for. Cleo is here now ( ) and we needed to get her yahoo and chikka working with her cellphone here, so she gave me her passwords for those accounts, but I did not want to look at her email or anything like that (and I wasn't that surprised that her yahoo buddy list is twice as long as mine ). She didn't have any hesitation giving me the password, and I didn't have any hesitation about still respecting her privacy.

[paul1orr]

Well I just posted in another thread a few hours ago stating that I think it is a good idea to exchange passwords (LOL) and I can see both sides of the coin but to me personally I have nothing to hide and would gladly give my password to Genn. I just don't know if she would do the same for me.

I would be happy for her to read any and all my chats. I think it would only strengthen our relationship because i have not one time said anything inappropriate to any one. In fact, I'm sure she would be pleased about the times I have been approached by women online and immediately set the record straight concerning myself and Genn and that I am all ready commited.......sorry!

If two people each have nothing to hide then what's the problem?
On the other hand, no one has the right to demand your password. Any exchange should be voluntary on both parts. If someone demanded my password (I am passive aggressive) I would push back and stand my ground against the demand.