planning a trip to cebu

[wildmanmcgraw]

I am new to this site and I have not learned how to use it that well. I am presently engaged to a girl in Cebu, Philippines. She has 4 children, I have no problem adopting her kids. She is not planing to bring them over here to live with us, but instead is leaveing them with her family to care for them, mostly her mom. This bothers me to think of the kids not being with there mother. Once she comes over here we do not know how many years it will be before we can return to visit. I am also afraid she will want to return back home if whe misses them to much. I have never traveled outside of the U.S. before and I am a little nervous about going so far away from my home. So right now I am just trying to focuse on my trip and learn as much as I can that will help me when I make this trip. We wanted to get married their with her family but we were advised not to because fiancee visa was the best way to go. If I go there to meat her then come home and apply for her visa then after getting her visa? Is it possible for me to go back to be married in the phillippines and then bring her home to the u.s. instead of being married here?
I relize their is a lot I need to learn about this process of bringing her here to live with me as my wife. I am hopeing to learn much from this site and to make many new friends. I was introduced to my girlfreind by her aunt that I have know for about 4 years now from my church. she has also introduced me to other couples that are freinds of hers here in our area that are also from the philippines. I fell like I have a lot in common with those I have talked to so far. And I am looking forward to meeting more of those that have done or are doing what I am doing.
I also have some personal issues with family that I need to ask advice from someone on a more personal level.
I would also like to add that as a christian I feel that I am being drawn by the lord Jesus to the Philippines, I am planning to make the philippines my mission field. I want to help these poeple in any way that I can. Even though I do not know what I am going to do or how I am going to do it, or when I will do anything.
But I am planning to start my mission by being baptised when I am there in the ocean on the beach. Joining a Baptist church and being a member, and sopporting that church even though I may not return to the Philippines for some time.

[rogershover]

Hello, you can learn a lot about Cebu at a site called "Way Blima" at www.wayblima.com . Also there is a forum of people living in Cebu at www.livingincebuforums.com that could give you more insight in what to expect and what to watch out for.There ae some more too, but it slips my mind at the moment, but be sure to look for the videos at the livingincebu by Jim Sibbick. Just use common sense and your best behavior and you should be ok. Good Luck!

Roger