She is no longer Filipina?

Dabyano · December-4th-2008, 11:49 PM

In June 2008, my wife returned to the Phils and back home for the fist time. It had been almost 6 years since she had seen the homeland and her family, in person.

Oddly enough, I really had to persuade her to actually take the trip. She was apprehensive about facing all of the "problems" back home, face-to-face. But, eventually, she came around and we made the trip. The closer we got to back home, the more excited she became. There was lots of talk about what she would do first and where she would go and who she would see. As, it happened, she did not want to let anyone know that we were returning, so only one sister, who lives in Manila, was knowledgeable about our arrival.

When we showed up at the house in Butuan City, it was sort of a cross between a wild party and a riot. Lots of shouting, crying and laughing...hugs and kisses....great joy.

After a few days....my wife talked to me, in one of the very few quiet moments, and said that she was glad that she was not living there anymore. She said that she felt like she had really outgrown the place and she really did not want to live there anymore. And...she said that she did not feel like she "belonged" there anymore.

All in all the trip was fun and well worth it. But, my wife's reaction got me to thinking about how things really are for her. All along her in the States, she has talked about going home, because she did not really fit in here.....and so she could feel completely comfortable, being back in the Phils. She said that she did not really feel like an "American" and that she did not think she would ever really get used to this place.
But when we returned to Texas, she was glad to be "home."

She has been talking to me and to her other Pinay friends about what she calls the "Third Culture", not really American..but not really Pinay anymore..

I talked to some of her friends..and I think this may be a common feeling. Happy to be here, holding on to Pinay ways..but not quite Pinay anymore.

LornaDoone · March-18th-2009, 10:29 PM

Ha ha ! I understand completely where she coming from. I feel the same way when I made my first vacation to PI last year. when I was there I miss America and when I am here now in US, I miss Philippines. how strange isn't it.

LornaDoone · March-18th-2009, 10:38 PM

I love both. America and Philippines. there are many things that I don't liked in the Philipines; and there are many things that I liked in the Philippines. also there are things I don't liked in US; and there are things I liked in US. both have advantages and disadvantages.

Dabyano · May-28th-2009, 10:34 PM

Wing says that it is hard to feel completely comfortable in either place. When she is here, she misses the PI. When she is in the PI she misses being here. Texas IS home now, but still there are some things that she misses about the PI.

Daby

December-4th-2008, 11:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Dabyano Asawa International Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 225 Location: Austin, TX Country: United States Benefits filed at:: Texas Service Center Immigration Status: Removing Conditions Country of non-US Fiance / Spouse / Family Member:: Philippines Blog Entries: 31	She is no longer Filipina? In June 2008, my wife returned to the Phils and back home for the fist time. It had been almost 6 years since she had seen the homeland and her family, in person. Oddly enough, I really had to persuade her to actually take the trip. She was apprehensive about facing all of the "problems" back home, face-to-face. But, eventually, she came around and we made the trip. The closer we got to back home, the more excited she became. There was lots of talk about what she would do first and where she would go and who she would see. As, it happened, she did not want to let anyone know that we were returning, so only one sister, who lives in Manila, was knowledgeable about our arrival. When we showed up at the house in Butuan City, it was sort of a cross between a wild party and a riot. Lots of shouting, crying and laughing...hugs and kisses....great joy. After a few days....my wife talked to me, in one of the very few quiet moments, and said that she was glad that she was not living there anymore. She said that she felt like she had really outgrown the place and she really did not want to live there anymore. And...she said that she did not feel like she "belonged" there anymore. All in all the trip was fun and well worth it. But, my wife's reaction got me to thinking about how things really are for her. All along her in the States, she has talked about going home, because she did not really fit in here.....and so she could feel completely comfortable, being back in the Phils. She said that she did not really feel like an "American" and that she did not think she would ever really get used to this place. But when we returned to Texas, she was glad to be "home." She has been talking to me and to her other Pinay friends about what she calls the "Third Culture", not really American..but not really Pinay anymore.. I talked to some of her friends..and I think this may be a common feeling. Happy to be here, holding on to Pinay ways..but not quite Pinay anymore.

March-18th-2009, 10:29 PM	#2 (permalink)
LornaDoone Asawa International Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 124 Location: PA Country: USA & PI right now Benefits filed at:: Local Office Immigration Status: Other Country of non-US Fiance / Spouse / Family Member:: Philippines	Ha ha ! I understand completely where she coming from. I feel the same way when I made my first vacation to PI last year. when I was there I miss America and when I am here now in US, I miss Philippines. how strange isn't it. __________________ " To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain.To try is to risk failure,but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing"

March-18th-2009, 10:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
LornaDoone Asawa International Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 124 Location: PA Country: USA & PI right now Benefits filed at:: Local Office Immigration Status: Other Country of non-US Fiance / Spouse / Family Member:: Philippines	I love both. America and Philippines. there are many things that I don't liked in the Philipines; and there are many things that I liked in the Philippines. also there are things I don't liked in US; and there are things I liked in US. both have advantages and disadvantages. __________________ " To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain.To try is to risk failure,but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing"

May-28th-2009, 10:34 PM	#4 (permalink)
Dabyano Asawa International Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 225 Location: Austin, TX Country: United States Benefits filed at:: Texas Service Center Immigration Status: Removing Conditions Country of non-US Fiance / Spouse / Family Member:: Philippines Blog Entries: 31	Wing says that it is hard to feel completely comfortable in either place. When she is here, she misses the PI. When she is in the PI she misses being here. Texas IS home now, but still there are some things that she misses about the PI. Daby __________________ "Life is to be enjoyed, not just endured."

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