Coping with baby blues...

We sold our first baby to the Gypsies but we finally decided it wasn't going to get any better.

Originally Posted by tugar

We sold our first baby to the Gypsies but we finally decided it wasn't going to get any better.

I once said that to my child, "That if he behave so bad, I'll sell him to the gypsies". But, I forgot that the boy has "Hunch back of Notre Damme" book to which he once said while browsing pages of it, "Mom, Esmeralda has pretty hair, she's a very nice and pretty lady".

The boy didn't care if he ended up with a gypsy.

Wrong tactic.

Hi May,
I understand you since I did feel it also during my first weeks after Zoey's born, I cried and I always tell my husband that I really miss him esp the time that we are together and I always make "lambing" for him...but later on it gets better and I'm already used of caring Zoey esp rite now that she starts smiling(it will really brighten up my day , seeing her cute and adorable face with a very beautiful smile )...I'm sure you'll get used to it too, for now spend your time with your husband when the baby's sleeping, that's what we did...
Take care and God Bless...


Shyne

breastfeeding him every 2 hrs plus I had a C-section and my hubby had just 1 day left of vacation.

febby, all I can say is wow! I'll definitely draw inspiration from this quote. If I thought I had it tough, it certainly pales in comparison to yours.

Ger

Shyne, I do feel so much better now. Thanks for the encouraging words! You're definitely right about how it gets easier everyday as I learn to adjust to my baby's sleeping, waking and feeding schedules. And she's also starting to smile now, which simply just melts my heart and makes all my loneliness go away. Even just watching her sleeping like in angel gives me a sense of peace and comfort too. And when she grasps my finger in her tiny hand and stares in my eyes, I can't even begin to describe how happy that makes me. Motherhood is very very fulfilling, once the baby blues are over!


May

Good to hear things are better for you May. My wife and I went through three days where Little Abbey did not want to lay down and go to sleep without being held. A couple of those nights I think she had gas because after six hours of keeping us up, she would fart a lot and then settle down. At the end, I thought I would go nuts and there wasn't enough caffeine to keep me going. But then last night after I bought some gas medication for babies, she went right to sleep (never even used the medication) and slept like an angel. Parents were able to get some sleep and things are back to normal.

My favorite time is daddy time which occurs right after I get home from work. We spend lots of time looking into each other's eyes and talking. She does this with her stomach on my stomach to give her head a rest and to prevent flat spotting. It also gives mommy a chance to do her own thing or catch a nap.

And she's also starting to smile now, which simply just melts my heart

May, it really is heart melting!

just watching her sleeping like in angel

Even if they give you a hard time the whole day, when you watch them sleep as if nothing happened it's easy to forget the rough time you had

Ed,

I think she had gas because after six hours of keeping us up, she would fart a lot and then settle down

I have only 2 problems with Evan, he is hungry all the time and his gas. I was just telling my mom that first thing in the morning as soon as I take off the swaddle from him, he would raise his right arm over his head and fart!

My favorite time is daddy time which occurs right after I get home from work.

I am glad to read this because this is what Tom does too. Sometimes I would worry that he'd be too wiped out for it but still does this to give me a rest but I could also see that Tom enjoys his daddy time too. It's Tom who puts Evan to sleep at night (11:00 sometimes 12:30) so I could have an early night.

Ger

Ger

Here is some things that I have discovered and the nurses have told me. If your baby truly has gas, he will always seem like he is hungry and confuses the pain in his abdomen as hunger. Another tip is if he tries to curl into the fetal position by raising his legs and if he immediately quiets down when you press his stomach to yours. Little Abbey shows these symptoms some of the time. Other times she is just clingy and wants to be held. I can differentiate between the two because when she is clingy, just holding her without pressure to her stomach quiets her down and she doesn't act hungry by trying to nurse my shirt.

To deal with the hunger issue. We had that problem too at the beginning with breast feeding. Little Abbey would drink some, fall asleep and wake up an hour to two later wanting more. Now we allow her to fall asleep off the first nipple (or bottle) and then wake her up by changing the diaper, burping her and getting her reswaddled. By the time all that is over, she is normally awake enough to take more milk from the bottle or another breast. Once we learned that, she sleeps for two and a half to three hours during the day between feedings and three to three and a half hours at night between feedings. The nurses said do what you can to prevent them from falling asleep during eating. Expose their skin, play with feet and hand and best of all, cup their head in your hand and rub it like you are tussling up their hair. They dislike that for some reason.

If your baby truly has gas, he will always seem like he is hungry and confuses the pain in his abdomen as hunger.

Ed,

This is good information, thanks!

About mommy food that's responsible for baby's gas (forgot where you posted this), does Mrs. Abbey drink dairy products? I suspected that this might be the case for us so I haven't taken any for the past couple of days (just soy milk instead) and seemed to have lessened Evan's frequent bursts of carbon dioxide

Expose their skin, play with feet and hand and best of all, cup their head in your hand and rub it like you are tussling up their hair.

I was lucky to have a short one on one with a lactation consultant before I was dischareged from the hospital. Here are the other things she taught me: when baby stops sucking 1.) make firm circular motions on his back 2.) make firm circular motion on the top of his chest (near his neck) 3.) tickle his chin 4.) express some milk by massaging downwards the outer side of your breast.

Don't think your Little Abbey needs that anymore tho.

Ger

Ger, my lactation consultant told me that something in milk and other dairy products (I forgot exactly what but I think it's lactose) can cause a tummy upset in babies coz their undeveloped digestive system is unable to handle it. Other babies are simply just allergic to cow's milk.

I've been reading a book too (The Nursing Mother's Companion by Kathleen Huggins) and it's really loaded with lots of useful info about nursing and taking care of your baby. Other food that you may want to avoid include chocolate and spices like cinnamon, garlic, and curry; citrus fruits and juices because of their acidic content; as well as gas-producing vegetables like onion, broccoli, cabbage, bell peppers and cucumbers.

It may be a hit-and-miss thing though and you don't necessarily have to avoid all these food. Just see which ones cause gas pains to your baby. In my case, I found out that small amounts of onion in my food don't bother Eowyn at all. My doctor told me that if you notice your baby being fussier than usual, think back and remember what food you've been eating coz that may very well be the culprit.

Breastfeeding can be very challenging, huh? :P


May