Should relationships take some effort or should they be effortless?

LornaDoone · March-16th-2009, 01:31 PM

There is a common myth that good relationships are hard work.
Yes, there should be some work involved. You can't get good at anything unless you work at it.
But, there's work that you do which you enjoy doing, and there's work you do which you don't enjoy.
If you have to work at it too much, you're probably not enjoying it very much.
The more effort you are putting into just to getting along with the other person, the less worthwhile it undoubtedly is and the less enjoyment you are getting out of it.

So, are good relationships hard ?
No.....

Good relationships are easy, bad relationships are hard.

Dabyano · March-17th-2009, 02:07 AM

Some times are a little tougher that others, but overall the relationship should not have to be about lots of hard work. It should just be about continued work. Relationships are like a garden that has weeds growing in it. If you take care of the weeds every day, it is not hard to maintain the garden, but if you wait and let the weeds grow large, it takes a lot of work to get rid of them. So the problems [weeds] in a relationship will get worse if they are not taken care of immediately.

Daby

March-16th-2009, 01:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
LornaDoone Asawa International Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 118 Location: PA Country: United States Benefits filed at:: Local Office Immigration Status: Other Country of non-US Fiance / Spouse / Family Member:: Philippines	Should relationships take some effort or should they be effortless? There is a common myth that good relationships are hard work. Yes, there should be some work involved. You can't get good at anything unless you work at it. But, there's work that you do which you enjoy doing, and there's work you do which you don't enjoy. If you have to work at it too much, you're probably not enjoying it very much. The more effort you are putting into just to getting along with the other person, the less worthwhile it undoubtedly is and the less enjoyment you are getting out of it. So, are good relationships hard ? No..... Good relationships are easy, bad relationships are hard. __________________ " To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain.To try is to risk failure,but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing"

March-17th-2009, 02:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
Dabyano Asawa International Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 211 Location: Austin, TX Country: United States Benefits filed at:: Texas Service Center Immigration Status: Removing Conditions Country of non-US Fiance / Spouse / Family Member:: Philippines Blog Entries: 31	Not Hard Work but Continuing Work Some times are a little tougher that others, but overall the relationship should not have to be about lots of hard work. It should just be about continued work. Relationships are like a garden that has weeds growing in it. If you take care of the weeds every day, it is not hard to maintain the garden, but if you wait and let the weeds grow large, it takes a lot of work to get rid of them. So the problems [weeds] in a relationship will get worse if they are not taken care of immediately. Daby __________________ "Life is to be enjoyed, not just endured."

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