do the parents pay for the wedding

ok thanks
very interesting reading
i thought this would be the way.
i dont want to speak ill of them but they do seem to "expect"

Originally Posted by BJZags

If the groom is filipino, is he still required to foot the bill? Or is it only because the "foreigner" factor somehow morphs the "tradition."

Nope, not in my experience. The brides family pays.

My FIL tried to get me to pay for my wifes sisters weddings. Didn't happen.

Originally Posted by jasmine

even if the groom is a filipino its a customary here in the philippines that the guy paid most of the wedding expenses...its long been practiced anyway...and if youre a guy you dont feel good if the girl will pay for it...its a pride for the guy...huh

jas

Well, Jasmine just shot down Tito's filipinos are practical people theory. Thankfully I have the cash to keep my pride in tact, but it must suck to be a poor to average-wage filipino. I suppose their only option would be to run to the courthouse in the dead of night and have a civil ceremony.

well when we say of wedding.,,, it has a blessing from the church or civil,,, but in most cases i never seen a wedding that the girl paid a lot or else you wanted to be the talk of the town... people will talk you behind..they say that youre a guy with no bones...well this happenned in most cases...,,,but doesnt mean that girl is free from all expenses but as what ive said the guy pay more.,,, well in some instances maybe girl pay more and there must be a reason behind it....


jassss

i do agree with jasmine. for my 24 years living in Philippines, it is the guy's family who shoulder everything for the wedding. From pamanhikan down to church wedding. That's what my family did when my brother got married.

thanks so much people keep the post coming each one helps me understand the philippines a little better

indeed, the groom and his family normally foots the wedding bill, or at least the bigger part of it. two of my three brothers' brides didn't have to pay for anything. my other brother is still saving for his wedding. my sister had a simple one and it was paid for by her husband's family. my hubby paid mostly for the wedding, but he got quite a discount because my friends and family pooled their resources and services together and we ended up having a lot gratis.

Originally Posted by BJZags

Seems to me that the so-called "tradition" is that the bride's parents pay for NOTHING. At least that's the party line my bride's family seems to be feeding me. Now, in fairness, I don't know if that is because of actual tradition or because the bride's parents don't have two-pesos to rub together.

considering how hot your wife is, I wouldn't be complaining even if I had to pay for all of her sisters weddings too! lol

Originally Posted by Born2Strum

Considering how hot your wife is, I wouldn't be complaining even if I had to pay for all of her sisters weddings too! lol

Gee, thanks! Since she is from a very large family, that would mean many sisters' weddings I'd pay for. Thankfully I am only obligated for one engagement party. Though it may sound like I'm bitching, I'm not -- just trying to get a feel for this "tradition" stuff. In my case, the gal and I have a good plan, and the father is totally supportive. It just seems like all the "underlings" have different ideas and try to throw a wrench into the works. Why should my engagement and wedding be free from the time-honored "tradition" of stress?

Originally Posted by BJZags

If the groom is filipino, is he still required to foot the bill? Or is it only because the "foreigner" factor somehow morphs the "tradition."

Even if the groom is Filipino, he is expected to foot the bill. The guy pays for everything in the wedding, that is the tradition.

Of course there are modern couples now. That is, both guy & girl are working and they themselves are saving up for the wedding.

But be rest assured. You foot the bill not because YOU are a foreigner, but because YOU are a guy.