Red flag or paranoid?

Acemagoo

Yeah, I think I am leaning towards Tito_Jorge perspective. Can’t make it through a single chat without at least a hint for financial help.

greg: I have never sent my mahal a dime after communicating with her for over two years. However, last month I sent her a box full of surprises on her birthday...I was amazed that she has saved the chocolate candies soo long..showing them to me on webcam. Her saying hey mahal..look and see...I still have the chocolate kisses She is soo sweet to me, even promised to purchase a ring for me upon my arrival. Anyway, she is now hinting that her Auntie need financial assistance to pay for surgery

Hey Acemagoo,
First, Tito_Jorge IS right on the money with his advice. But I disagree with one thing. Going there can be a big shock. And you seem to be very new to this whole idea. What if you go there blindly to try to just meet girls. You may just get another scammer or a hooker. For those of us that have been there, it would be easier to know where to go, and not to go. The culture is different. And many girls know how to play the "Visitors".
My recommendation - there are a lot of Filipinas here in the U.S. Find someone who has a sister or aunt still living in the Philippines, and take it from there. There is a site I know many men have used, Cherry Blossoms. Thousands of Filipinas registered on it, some scammers, but you can weed them out and get a better feel of things. And for a $20. joining fee, hey that's cheaper than the $200 you are out right now. A friend of mine is currently using them, he is chatting with about 30 girls,- 5 girls on a regular basis, and has not sent a dime. One girl asked him for money the first or 2nd time they chatted, he X her. He is starting to narrow down his "choices" now. There are too many nice, real girls there to waste time on another "gold digger" (silver digger).
Slow down, check out ALL of your options.
I stayed in Makati, near the Ayala-Greenbelt Complex. You would be lucky to see it all in 5 days. Many ladies there.
Good Luck,
-Mabuhay-

Actually I think I may have gotten really lucky!!! I have been talking to another girl for about a month now and things are moving along nicely. Its hard to get a lot of chat time in because we work opposite hours, so there is a lot of email going back and forth and she sends me e-cards. But when we can chat online I watch her face, one because it is so pretty, but also I love her facial expressions. I don’t even think an actress could respond like she does. I really believe in her. She lives next to her aunt and I called her there yesterday on the phone. She has asked for something though, and I did comply. She wanted white roses sent to her at work (so all her comrades could see). Oh yeah and also shave my mustache and goatee. Only time will tell now.

Does anybody have suggestions for small things to put in a care package that would really brighten her day. I've made some CD's, and am sending a NYPD tee-shirt, but looking for other suggestions.

[treecat]

you have lots of huge red flags man dump her cut your losses and drive on .if you want a nice girl from the pi the best way to get one is to ask your friends from there if they can intro you to one. I met my fiancee thru her aunt and older sister who I worked with so I knew who I was going to meet and where she would be Dont be in a hurry ( I waited eight months before we had a face to face meeting) but always keep in mind that if it works out and you want to marry you should save your letters, chats, e mails, and phone bills for proof of your relationship for the application forms. I have known my fiancee for three years dont give any money unless you are in a commited relationship and have known her for a long time

[Jimbo2]

why are you offering advice on a thread that is 16 months old?
lol seems kinda wierd to me.

[treecat]

Hi Jimbo I didnt notice how old it was when I comment I was just looking and found it an intresting read. Also im new here I wish I had known about this forum way back when I started talking to my fiancee. I could have learned so much but maybe considering some of what I read here I would have gotten scared off. thank you for calling me "kinda wierd" LOL