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paul1orr · May-22nd-2008, 07:14 PM

I would agree with everyone else posting here and add.........
Most Provincial women in PI do not have a lot of exposure to philosophy or other deep subjects and the school system isn't very good. That and add in just a dash of daily survival and I can't imagine there are too many times that deep subjects are EVER discussed there. My X fiance is from the Dominican Republic and it's the same situation there. We were together 7 years and that never really changed much. None of this has to do with intellect. My gf is very bright and so is the x fiance but a lifetime of survival does not easily turn into deep conversations.

Give her a break and let her be who she is. If you want to change her then you are not being unfair to her and yourself. Love her just the way she is and she will do the same for you. Do you like to sit on the couch and watch chick flicks with your girl and to have her leaning against you the whole time? Do you like your gf paying so much attention to you and your needs, making you feel important? Those are most likely her needs as well and a sense that you are a rock and she doesn't have to worry about survival anymore. She wasn't raised to be a brilliant conversationalist so don't put that pressure on her. She will improve with time and language skills but don't expect a discussion on the theory of relativity.

Ok, I'm done, God bless all.

May-22nd-2008, 07:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
paul1orr Asawa International New Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 7	All good advice I would agree with everyone else posting here and add......... Most Provincial women in PI do not have a lot of exposure to philosophy or other deep subjects and the school system isn't very good. That and add in just a dash of daily survival and I can't imagine there are too many times that deep subjects are EVER discussed there. My X fiance is from the Dominican Republic and it's the same situation there. We were together 7 years and that never really changed much. None of this has to do with intellect. My gf is very bright and so is the x fiance but a lifetime of survival does not easily turn into deep conversations. Give her a break and let her be who she is. If you want to change her then you are not being unfair to her and yourself. Love her just the way she is and she will do the same for you. Do you like to sit on the couch and watch chick flicks with your girl and to have her leaning against you the whole time? Do you like your gf paying so much attention to you and your needs, making you feel important? Those are most likely her needs as well and a sense that you are a rock and she doesn't have to worry about survival anymore. She wasn't raised to be a brilliant conversationalist so don't put that pressure on her. She will improve with time and language skills but don't expect a discussion on the theory of relativity. Ok, I'm done, God bless all.