yenoc31

Hello Folks,

My name is Mike and this is the first post I've made to this forum. I've been looking around the reading various topics and postings and it's very educational. I don't know if I am posting this under the right topic but I really would like to hear what other people have to say about this.

I've been a member of various web sites and forums for about two years now looking around and hoping to meet a girl from the Phillipines that I can get to know and hopefully marry some day. I've talked to and chatted with my fair share of girls over there and I still haven't met the right lady yet.

My first thoughts of course are maybe I am doing something wrong with the way I present myself or maybe I am not communicating well to the women I meet. I am not sure what the problem is, lord knows I've tried changing things about myself and how I present myself. It's just getting really frustrating and I'd like to hear if others have been through this too. Lately I have been giving serious thought to just calling it quits all together. But when I think of quitting is when I usually tend to meet a new girl and that get my hopes up again.

I actually had thought I'd found the right woman for me and that we cared about each other but it turned out to be I was the only one who did the caring. I wrote to the girl after seeing her profile on a web site and we started writing to one another. Things were great at first and I was really happy. Now I am not the smartest person around but I am not the dumbest either.

After a couple of weeks of writing to each other the messages I'd get from her were her telling me what tragedy, illness, or money problem of the week was occurring with her and her family. Someone was always sick, or dying or in trouble because something needed paid.

Well of course I was blind at first and believed all the stuff she told me and yes I was stupid and sent her money over. I don't know how much was sent was it was a couple hundred easily. We chatted with each other and even saw one another on camera and I didn't mind trying to help out. But next thing I know her messages were filled with her telling me what crisis was happening to her or her family and how bad things were and how they needed money.

After a while I finally caught on, I learned the lesson too late of course. I sent her money to help with her schooling, family members being ill etc. I got to where I finally told her no more and there'd be no more money coming. Well that's when the messages from her started coming farther and farther apart and it finally sunk in I was being played. We chatted and wrote to one another for over a year and a half and fool that I am, I thought she was the one. I just contacted her for the last time earlier this month telling her to find someone else.

Anyway, I do know at this point if I even want to keep trying to meet someone. I work with a guy who has a filipina wife and from talking to him I decided to look around on my own. Maybe I need a break, I don't know. I know not all women from the phillipines are scammers just out trying to get money.

Right now I am writing to two girls I met through the site I belong to and so far things seem to be okay. We're just in the get to be friends stage now. Both women seem to be sincere and honest so I am hoping something might develop with one of them. The only thing is one girl is working in Kuwait for two years on an employment contract.

I'd be interested in hearing from people here about all this. Do I need to quite and take a break? Any and all advice would be welcome. Thanks for letting me vent here and get it off my chest. I just needed to talk to other people who have been down this road. Thanks.